Oh, ma quante belle risposte!
Ah, che emozione!!
Meanwhile thanks to all of you either, that you really did very well and you felt like raving to me about this stuff ... especially to those commentators who've come forward silent ... welcome! See Mo do not disappear again wrapped in a mystery, there!
and Alice 'is also particularly proud of themselves' cause, his goal of objectivity' has played a little 'dirty, and gave the position to disagree with the more' attractive. And in the meantime here
drum roll and ola ... Oooohhh ... mega scoop!
Alice and 'the number 1, the Nazi emotional! Muha ha ha nyah!
(Oh, Penza I do not know it '!)
But now' there pecks whole tirade, are you ready?
's summary (more or less, no, not so abstract) 3-point 'cause Alice and' anchored with tooth and nail to position 1:
FIRST
for position 2, each emotion has a right to exist be welcomed 'as is' and the maximum and' important work on the "actions":
Type:
CiccioPuzzetta falls, I enjoy. And 'my right to enjoy. Pero 'I must learn to hold back the laughter and chromium, mercury switch, so' as to be socially acceptable. I can prove what I want, but it 's important that my actions, and only those, are "right", no matter how disconnected from what I think, feel, I think.
This goes for Alice and 'schizophrenia. At this point prefer a child who laughs in the face CiccioPuzzetta rather than a psychopath who feigns empathy without trial.
Alice does not believe that every emotion has a right to exist, in any situation.
Of course, not 'can control the emergence of an emotion, we angry, we suffer, we love often without apparent reason and they give their lives for this ... but we can rationalize, empathize, to understand where it comes from the emotion and change it, control it, understand it ... In short, roll up our sleeves and get down to smooth edges of self-consciousness. But
already 'the only "roll up their sleeves" implies the awareness that There 'something to work, that certain emotions are not so' healthy, and then said, speaking as you eat, which are "wrong." If I live I feel confident that everything goes well, I'll post 'never question, I'll try not' never understand 'cause I'm angry, I fear, disgust me, because I enjoy the right to try whatever I want when I Apparently, with the intensity that I think.
There are emotions that are wrong because:
-do not work for us (kind of shit when I love a man, or when I'm ashamed of myself)-
are disconnected with reality '(when I get angry over something silly or superficial , or someone who is not to blame for letting off steam a bit ') do not respect
- the other (like when misfortunes of others to enjoy or envy someone for no apparent reason ...).
accept that all emotions have a right to exist and must be complied Alice seems very dangerous.
(Now foul play, are you ready?)
... okay despise blacks, gypsies or people who do not like the Penza mme '? Basically it is an emotion that I blame you if I sfranfuglia? (At least until 'do not go around him on fire or kill them with a kalashnikow, as a specific option number 2)
... okay to enjoy in front of my mother crying? (Just pretend that I dislike, however '!)
It' ok if I'm ashamed of myself 'cause I am a lesbian, or ugly, or fat, or old, or what you think? (As long as 'others do not notice!)
I believe that if more' people over there think, their emotions, instead of taking them as fact, that there are, crystallized and untouchable, things are not so 'evil.
SECOND
Shame!
All colleges are united in believing that the shame of one's emotions is something terrible, which is never proven, that ruins their self-esteem, which destroys the ego and security.
and Shame 'is only mentioned in Option 1 because Alice is the only one to believe that, ashamed of his emotions, is not always' na stuff teribbile
(This does not mean that Alice goes around saying "Are you jealous-sadistic-angry? Shame on you" is the Nazi But not crazy!)
Now, an example Famo simple: By
underground, there 'a tramp camped inside. The first reaction is' fear and disgust and big, stinking of urine, have an infection in black and barefoot. Then, empathize, I spend a bit 'of time (mica that much, just 5 seconds) to think about his life and put myself in his shoes, and I'm sorry for him, and I'm ashamed for my first thought,' cause it was instinctive but also quite shallow. To me 'that shame them' seems a good thing, something that helps me do better next time, not something that I harp or the ego makes me insecure.
Again
My friend has a new job. Taaanta envy, that 'the job I wanted it too, and not' right that you have and I'm not angry, I would do even better than her, because 'she' and not me?
Then I stop, and I remember that 'my friend, and like me she probably wanted him so much that place, and then I am ashamed to be mean and try to enjoy his joy, and to be best friend .
There are cases where, you go through the shame and it comes out, in a sense, better, or at least a little 'more' grown up. While acknowledging their mistakes, shame is a powerful stimulus, if after having done a great boiata I'm ashamed, that emotion is a great incentive to not let it stay there in the future and more careful.
THIRD
The last reason why Alice did not like the location and 2 'that is dishonest:
If you really believe that emotions "are" and that everyone has the right to prove what seems to daughters, then 'cause' work 'actions?
If I have the right to be happy when you fall, 'cause I can not even laugh and take the piss?
Why 'You should try one thing and doing another?
We are what we do.
And above all, as many have noted, the two positions "do" the same thing.
In neither case is to "shame" or judge orally. Both sides, as many of you have commented, the same fan stuff: forward to a dwarf that we begin to feel "wrong", intervening to help empathize, to put themselves in someone else's shoes, trying to understand what is behind.
And that is why, according to Alice, option two is a lie, because even the teachers who embrace the second option we believe that emotions are "inappropriate" (otherwise excuse, which intervenes to do?), But claim work on the action, and to allow the nano to the right to prove what most 'believe. For
Alice seems to be a way to not take responsibility of what you really are doing a pretend not to see. This is especially true in the classroom, in front of the dwarves, because there are expressions, intonations and expressions that still send a message that is clear and "are not happy with what you're doing, I would like you to change" and it's strong, to be used with caution and common sense (but also generally in relations with others).
If we act on the actions it is because we hope will lead to a modification of the emotion which it is based, because we believe it is not healthy, is not "right" is not constructive and bla bla ... Rabla
Or are we simply raising a generation of hypocrites.
have a few more things:
If one falls, and I laugh 'cause I'm scared, laughter and' action, but the terror and 'emotion, and it', in my opinion, (in my catalog Nazi-emotional) more 'than appropriate.
Another discourse and 'if I enjoy it like a hedgehog to see someone hurt, but I hold my pleasure, and the tissue outwardly step chromium and mercury. In this case the action and 'correct, but the excitement and' wrong.
goes without saying that no one wants to "humiliate" the dwarf in question to the thrill, but Alice knows that sometimes, when the nano thinks about what he has said and done, the shame comes anyway, and she takes the responsibility. Last
example then the tears, I swear, but it happened just today and falls to the letter:
Prezzemolina Barbie and hold hands, go in search of dizzy, the place above and leave a voice to choir: "See, you're not my friend, I play alone with her gnenee Gne Gne" airhead cashes in silence, the two smile and start a theater for the benefit of dizzy, pretending not to have it before: "True that we're friends?, True that she is not our friend? true that we do not mica play with us? "
When Alice intervenes merely to take the two Use the crazy part, and asks both how they would feel in the place of an airhead. While Barbie wriggling and makes vague Prezzemolina is clearly uncomfortable and ashamed. When Alice goes away without further indicazioni o suggerimenti, Prezzemolina si avvicina a Svampita e sussura "Anche tu sei mia amica, sai, possiamo giocare assieme, te tieni la bamola e io la vesto".
C'è vergogna, eccome. Ed è stata Alice, per vie nemmeno molto larghe, a portare Prezzemolina a vergognarsi per aver umiliato un'altra persona gratuitamente. Se quella vergogna è il costo per una maggiore empatia e rispetto reciproco, a lei pare un prezzo ragionevole.
Alice nazi-emozionatrice
Ah! Menzione d'onore al commento di Giovanni Angelo ... sei ufficialmente il mio mito!
E ad Adoratrice per la poesia, bellerrima.
E ad Antonio Machado pure, perchè qui ho già detto abbastanza, ma è vero, there is an enormous social and cultural aspects that must be considered.
And to all of you, if you want to chat again, do your thing, that 'is' emotion-fight "will go on and on ... was officially declared the discussion of the Month!
